Eleanor Roosevelt said “do one thing every day that
scares you.” Sometimes, for me,
that’s just looking in the mirror when I roll out of bed sleep deprived,
stressed out and facing a long day with a ton of work in front of
But that’s not what she meant.
What I think this courageous woman meant was to challenge yourself to do
that which you never thought you had the courage to do. She meant be brave, be
decisive, take a stand, and meet that frightening thing head on.
I decided to take her up on her challenge.
I haven’t done one thing every day that scares me because a few things,
in my opinion, carry over a few days.
They were that big!
First, I removed my daughter from public school. There were a lot of reasons leading up
to this decision; but I have felt like the school’s been failing her for a long
time. Unfortunately, as a single
parent, I didn’t know what to do with her. I can’t afford private school and I
have to work during the day. But a
series of events finally collided and I made an intuitive, one-second, with my
heart decision to pull her out. I
didn’t know what I was going to do; but I knew she couldn’t go back there one
more day. I made the decision to
home school her for the rest of the year.
That one, I think, should fulfill the scare yourself requirements
for at least a week!
Then I had to make a big request of my boss. I never like doing this. I always feel
“not good enough” and make excuses or pile things upon myself instead of asking
for what I need. But this time, I asked for the permission to telecommute for
until the middle of June. That
scared me a lot. What if she said no? What if, worse, she said that I was a pain
in the ass and they didn’t need me anymore? I’ve had my share of challenges since I
started there and she’s been so gracious when I needed to tend to a sick kid but
what if enough was enough? Yet, I
scared myself and I asked. She
said yes. Problem solved!
Over the course of the next few weeks, I said no to several
invitations because I just didn’t have the ability in me to socialize. Before, I would have agreed and tried
to muster up the oomph to glam up and head out. This time I didn’t.
I said no and made no excuses. I made choices that scared me, I said no
to a lot of things and agreed to others.
I refused to be goaded. I
wrote without having a client request.
I flirted back. I trusted
And, that scary woman looking back at me in the mirror
today? Well, let’s just say I like her a whole helluva lot more!
I attended a networking lunch yesterday where a career coach spoke to us about career transitioning and change especially in an economy like ours. One of the questions in our workbook was "how do you maintain faith over fear?" That's a really relevant question for me as I move rapidly toward my eighth consecutive week of unemployment...which is, by the way, the last week that I'll receive a paycheck from Circuit City. If there was ever a time for fear to set in, it's now.
God rested on the 7th day, ball players have the 7th inning stretch, and I'm taking this week off from job hunting. With unemployment reaching double digits in some states, the odds of finding a job in the near future are slim. But job hunting is a job in and of itself, albeit a poorly paid one. So it's important to take breaks from the daily grind just like you would if you had a paying job.