I’m pretty sure it was Albert Einstein who defined insanity as “doing the same thing over and over, expecting different results”. While I know this is 100% true, I still find myself doing just that. I find myself trying to twist and bend certain relationships into something other than they really are, even when I know they aren’t working for me.
There are certain individuals who cross my path quite often and I can’t seem to throw in the towel and keep my resolve to avoid them at all costs. I keep trying harder and harder to force the relationships to work and they aren’t even romantic ones! I keep trying, even when I know that they never worked in the past and even when I’m pretty sure that they’ll never work in the future. Still, I keep hoping upon hope that these few folks will begin to treat me differently. And I keep handing them ample opportunities to trample on me in the process.
Do I allow this because I truly want to see the good in people no matter what? Am I naïve in thinking that nobody is just downright rude and mean-spirited? Is it me???
I remember an old quote that goes something like “Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me” but what about the sixth, seventh or tenth time I get fooled? At what point do I have to admit defeat and realize that, no matter what I do, some people are toxic for me and I should try my best to avoid them? Am I crazy to keep trying? Am I nuts to give people another inch on the rope that may, perhaps, ultimately hang ME? Is it insanity that keeps me hanging on or is fear of letting go? What will happen if I change and say “enough”?
Sometimes, the only thing to do is accept people for who they truly are and surrender. And remember the words to the old song “The Gambler” and "know when to hold ‘em, know when to fold ‘em, know when to walk away and know when to run.”
Take a minute and evaluate who you are letting in your life. Let your intuition guide you and when people show you over and over again who they are - believe them! And walk - or run - away from the toxic ones. Sometimes your life depends on it! Your sanity certainly does.